Empathy, Not Sympathy


Hey ya’ll!! I hope you are having a wonderful day! This subject is very near and dear to my heart, because a good support system is imperative in life. It doesn’t matter if it is a personal or professional support system, everyone needs somebody’s or somebodies’ support. I have many networks of support that help me cope with various aspects of my life. Some of the networks intertwine and some people overlap. Today I want to focus on the support system that I have for Organized Chaos.

If you watch the monthly Thursday Talks with Marie Rood (Lininger Rood Photography) and I on Instagram, you are aware that she is one of the key players in my Organized Chaos network. My world is very complex, especially when you add the military aspect to everyday life. Marie can empathize because she understands the various nuances of wearing a uniform everyday while simultaneously starting a business. Yes, I do have several friends that are not in the military however, my reality isn’t their reality. To be honest, explaining the complex network which is known as the Army is exhausting. Sometimes I lose my point trying to move through all the explaining. The lack of understanding, at no fault of my non military friends, can cause them to feel sorry for me or to sympathize.

I’m highlighting Marie because she does not give me her sympathy and I reciprocate that same attitude to her. As a matter of fact, I don’t want her sympathy and I know she doesn’t want mine. (Maybe it’s a Nepoleon Complex since we are both under 5′ 3″) I don’t want anyone feeling sorry or pitying me for the trials that I go through. I cringe at the thought of people saying, poor little Lindsay. I knew that being active duty, having a family, and starting a business was going to be hard work. However, I also knew that I needed somebody in my corner that could understand and be able to put themselves in my shoes, in my case boots. (By the way, she and I have the same boots, but mine are a half size bigger. She could literally put herself in my “shoes.”)

As you go through your business journey find you a support system. Whether it is one person or twenty, you need to find them. Those people that do not pity you or feel sorry for you when moments of self doubt, slow sales, or creator’s block arise. Having that network will help you better yourself. Find those that will be in your corner and will say, “I understand how you feel. You can overcome this, but you have to pick yourself up and get your shit together.” If you don’t have anyone to say it yet, it’s ok, I got you. Read the third sentence of this paragraph again, because I told you.

  1. Marie says:

    So before you, I had No one! Don’t think for one second that you don’t do just as much for me as I do for you. Let’s be honest about something tho…I’m not too sure why your boot size is bigger and I’m taller…no fair!!! Love ya girl!

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